Friends, I should have mentioned this earlier in this series of articles, but I am not a licensed counselor, relationship advisor, or anything other than a man with a plan. I am simply sharing with you the things I have been doing to hopefully enhance my relationship with my wife. That being said, I am not having any major marital issues. This is just a self-help journey that I have put myself on and if some of what I have written has helped you in any way, that’s fantastic. I am not trying to get anyone to change their ways, and in fact this series should have been titled “Being A Better Boyfriend for MY Wife”, but I digress. Here is what I have been up to lately.
Since my last installment in this series, I have taken on the task – and pleasure – of giving my wife some random gifts from time to time. Recently, my favorite thing to surprise her with is flowers. Every time I go to Sam’s Club now, I come back with a bouquet of flowers for her. With my hot dog business, I am at Sam’s quite frequently and now the house smells like a florist shop! Guys, this is one of the oldest gifts of love you can give, but too often we overlook it. Floral arrangements mostly are reserved for someone recuperating in the hospital or for the bereaved after the loss of a loved one. That needs to change. For only a few dollars – and a few more for the vase – you can give your girlfriend/wife/significant other a constant daily reminder of your love for them. It is money very well spent and the returns are better than those commercials on TV advertising gold and silver as investments. Instead, put your money, your time, and your efforts into the one investment that will outlast you – her.
Time is the one thing that we don’t ever seem to have enough of. We can spend it, but we can’t really save it; we can share it, but we can’t keep it; we can use it, but we can’t hold it. It’s the one commodity that goes against all other things of value, but it’s the most valuable by far. Spending quality time away from the TV with my wife has always been a challenge of sorts, but I am working on it. My workload has been tremendous lately, but I have chiseled some time off here and there just to sit and talk with her; listening mainly. As we walk together on this journey of matrimony we have grown closer and yet further away at the same time. I intend to do my very best to remedy this in the next few weeks, and as such my next article will be about listening and the power it holds.
That’s all for now, my good friends. As usual, if you have any comments or suggestions, please send them to my personal email: firstname.lastname@example.org. Thanks for your support and be well.
Alan Shoalmire is a resident in Grimes County and the owner of Grill Sergeant Hotdogs and submits a column to the Navasota Examiner every other week.